It’s funny that I find myself doing this, again I am not a “dating coach” or an expert…at least I don’t think of myself as one. I’m a freelance writer who gets the option to do a lot of good research into some of this internet marketing business (holding my nose sometimes).

However, due to the overwhelming response about my recent “online dating scam” blog I have decided to let you know what else I have uncovered and how you can avoid wasting your time with scammers.

But first…

—-steps onto his soap box—-

Here is the deal:  if you are online dating there is no need to get all worked up about the dangers involved.

Why?

Because there have been messed up people all over the place since the dawn of time. Nothing new there. The problem is that the internet allows for a great deal of illusion and deception. Are you gonna tell me people NEVER do that in person? Thought so.

So if you want to meet someone online, I say go for it. Don’t get hung up about WHERE you meet them. Fruitcakes are everywhere, one of the worst relationships I ever got into was someone I met in church. She went to jail for attacking me, biting me in two places on my body and trying to push me down a flight of stairs.

—-shudders—-

Anyway, as someone who has been online dating for years, my advice is to MEET them there and get to know them in person. After all, that’s really the advantage of being online: it increases your options and helps you weed through potential dates and you save yourself a LOT of time.

Done deal.

The time wasting happens when we try to GET TO KNOW someone online. It’s really funny, some people even think that there has to be some kind of progression: ok, a month of email, work our way up to a phone call, then two weeks….geez, give me a break. What a waste of time if you meet them in person only to find out that there is NO CHEMISTRY there!

Just ask for the persona l meeting up front. Make it somewhere brief, public and casual so that you can end it quick if it goes ill. Save the romantic outings for the one’s you really have a connection with (save yourself some money in the meantime. If they don’t go for it…move on.

It’s not worth your time.

Ok, off my soapbox.

Here are the easy steps to avoiding scams on dating sites:

1)      Never contact someone with only one picture, it’s not them. If you insist, ask for more pictures. What you may find is that everyone has at least one picture of themselves which makes them look completely different than who they are anyway.

2)      Never contact someone whose profile has poor writing or grammar. Chances are that they’re a man in another country trying to scam some poor desperate American. I don’t have room to go into detail about this (topic for another blog) just stay away. The other possibility is that they are just not well educated…either way, don’t waste your time.

3)      Never contact someone who photos are professionally done and they look like a part time model or something. There are most likely fakes that the dating site put up (yes, they do that…read my blog on dating profile scams) or they are someone trying to sell you something.

Yes, there are hot women on dating sites. But the hot women know that they are hot and they don’t go putting up glamour shots to prove it. The ones who do that usually end up looking NOTHING like the picture.

Trust me, a little makeup, lighting and Photoshop (no, I am not kidding) and viola! A hottie 10 from a five. Sound superficial? Well, maybe…then again if they are doing these things, obviously they are just as hung up on looks themselves.

4)      Finally, if you keep to my advice about meeting in person and refusing to engage in “email ping pong” you’ll scare the fakes off in no time. You’ll also avoid spending a lot of extra time “getting to know” someone who you may not even click with in person.

So there, I suppose that I’ve gotten myself into something with this because I have a feeling that there will be more curious readers. Bring it on….if this gets serious, maybe I’ll even sic Rocky on these scammers.

-To Your Success,

Seth Czerepak

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