Do you ever feel drained at the end of the day? As if there aren’t enough hours in the day or there’s not enough of you to go around?

No, I’m not trying to sell you an energy drink pitch you on the new acaii berry craze.

—-grimaces in disgust——

This is not about getting more energy.

In fact, I’ve come to learn that people run out of time and energy at the end of the day for the same reason that they run out of money at the end of the month:

They are caught up in the thick of thin things.

You may have heard it said that a person is only as big as the things which they choose to fight for.

(I’m not talking about small in regards to physical size or stature, but in depth of character)

Have you ever seen someone who was taking another person to court over something petty? Or perhaps you have worked in a service role and been confronted by an irate customer who was ready to squabble with you over something petty.

And what do they always say? “It’s not the _______, it’s the principle.”

This is what Steven Covey calls being “caught up in the thick of thin things…”

….and we all fall into this trap sometimes.

The most common place is in our relationships with the people who are closest to us.

Sure, it might be about the principle.

Then again, you have to ask yourself if you have bigger principles to fight for….if so, better to conserve your energy.

Lose the battle and save your energy for the war….otherwise you may end up with nothing left.

You see, small people pick small battles and will fight them tooth and nail until they win.

Why?

Because they have nothing bigger to fight for…

You know what this means?

It means that if you expend your energy squabbling with people over petty things, it is likely that you will lose. Think about it…a person who has no war will blow the battle out of proportion and fight tooth and nail until they win.

In other words, the person who has nothing to lose is the person who you will lose against.

Either that or you get caught up in it and end up winning a battle which is not big enough to justify itself….even if you do win.

This is because you’ll likely pay a higher price than you would pay by forfeiting the battle and living to fight another day.

How?

By positioning yourself as someone who has nothing better to do than to get caught up in the thick of thin things.

You’ll not only waste your energy….you’ll pay a horrible price in the sacrifice of your relationship to the other person and in the scope of your influence with everyone in your life.

Not only that, most of the time the people who are picking battles with you are not even your enemies. If you stop seeing them this way, you can refocus your attention on valuing the relationship and understanding what kind of deprived need or even hurt they’re acting out of. In doing so, you may gain a valuable ally and even help them to redirect their attention to bigger things.

Unfortunately, at the same time there are always going to be people in the world who have nothing significant to fight for.

If these kind of people realize that they can shrink your character in order to meet theirs on the battlefield, they’ll never stop picking fights with you.

Remember, termites do more damage than fires, hurricanes and earthquakes combined.

If you allow yourself to get caught up in the thick of thin things because you are fighting for “principles” you’ll end up with nothing left when it comes time to fight for what really matters.

The next time you feel yourself about to engage someone, take a step back and ask yourself if you are about to fight a war or a battle.

If you do, you’ll find that people will gain a new level of respect for you. They will see you as someone who has something to fight for, that you are saving the best of yourself for the things that really matter.

And when the time comes for you to take a stand for something important, you’ll find that more people will be prepared to stand with you.

Thanks for reading, please leave your comments or questions below.

-To Your Success,

Seth Czerepak

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